THE TWELVE STEPS TO VICTORY™ || Step Five || Confession Brings Freedom

In The Twelve Steps to Victory™ column, we’re reframing the traditional 12 Steps with a focus on victory vs continually looking back at our missteps and failures. Each Step aligns with the months on the yearly calendar. This series publishes on the first Friday of each month in 2025.

We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs, knowing that confession is key to finding victory.       — Step Five

Key Verse

“Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” — James 5:16

Introduction

Step Five is a pivotal moment in our journey to victory. It calls us to move beyond silent acknowledgment of our sins and to confess them openly—to God, to ourselves, and to a trusted person. This act of confession, though daunting, is the gateway to healing and freedom. Many of us carry the burden of shame, guilt, or fear, but Scripture reminds us that confession leads to renewal and a fresh start.

Why Is This Step Important?

Holding on to unconfessed sin or past failures can create a heavy burden, keeping us from walking in true freedom.

CONFESSION:

  • Releases us from hidden shame that keeps us spiritually stuck.
  • Breaks the cycle of secrecy and allows us to embrace God’s grace fully.
  • Opens the door for accountability and healing, as we invite trusted individuals to walk with us in restoration.

The enemy thrives in darkness, but confession brings our struggles into the light of God’s truth, where they lose their power over us.

Practical Application

  1. Confess to God First – Take time in prayer to lay everything before God. He already knows, but verbalizing our struggles and sins helps us experience His forgiveness in a tangible way.
  2. Be Honest with Yourself – Journaling can be a powerful way to process what needs to be confessed and recognize patterns of behavior that need God’s healing.
  3. Find a Trusted Confidant – Choose someone who is spiritually mature, such as a mentor, pastor, or close friend, to whom you can confess. Their encouragement and prayers will help you walk in freedom.
  4. Speak God’s Truth Over Yourself – Replace shame with God’s promises of grace. Meditate on Scriptures that affirm His love and redemption, like Romans 8:1 (“There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”).

Illustration

David’s heartfelt confession in Psalm 51 after his sin with Bathsheba is a powerful example of Step Five in action. He didn’t just acknowledge his sin—he confessed it to God with a heart seeking renewal. God, in His mercy, restored David, just as He promises to restore us when we humbly confess.

Discussion Question

What holds you back from confessing your struggles to God or a trusted person? How might confession bring healing and freedom in your life?

Application Challenge

This week, commit to confessing one struggle or past mistake to God in prayer. If you feel led, find a trusted accountability partner and share what’s on your heart. Pay attention to how confession lightens your burden and brings peace.

Conclusion

Confession isn’t about dwelling in guilt—it’s about walking in grace. God desires healing, not condemnation, and through confession, we experience true spiritual freedom. Let Step Five be a turning point where you trade secrecy for surrender and step fully into the victory God has for you.

I pray Cody Carnes’ music video: Run to the Father is a true blessing to you as you lean into the comfort of our Father’s arms.

THE TWELVE LAWS OF LIFE RECOVERY | Confession

REACHING HURTING WOMEN MINISTRIES OFFERS FOUR TOPICS FOR CONTEMPLATION EVERY MONTH. EACH TOPIC IS A 12-MONTH STUDY ASSIGNED TO A SPECIFIC FRIDAY OF THE MONTH. IN MONTHS WITH FIVE FRIDAYS WE REVIEW INSPIRATIONAL CHRISTIAN MEDIA.

On the third Friday of each month in 2022 we’re focusing our life recovery work on The Twelve Laws of Life Recovery: God’s Wisdom and Guidance for Your Journey with Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. This powerful study will take our life of recovery to a level of freedom most of us haven’t yet experienced.

Each month we’re looking at a requirement that guides us to a specific result which will ultimately fill our lives with love, gratitude and the serenity we desire.

THE LAW OF CONFESSION

REQUIREMENT: CONFESSION
RESULT: HEALING

So admit your sins to each other, and pray for each other so that you will be healed. ~ James 5:16

We are all prone to hide our weaknesses. But by not taking responsibility for our mistakes is very unhealthy.

Our hidden secrets grow in the darkness and will ultimately take over our life if we let them. The longer we hide them, the more painful it will be to confess them and change our behavior.

Confession is not real unless it is honest–both in what is revealed and what is not. Telling the whole truth in full disclosure is the only acceptable kind of confession that produces healing. ~ The Twelve Laws of Recovery

Once we do make confession, healing begins, not just in our own hearts, but in personal relationships and with God. The pain of confession is totally worth it!