My Victory Voyage || Restoration

In MY VICTORY VOYAGE I’m sharing the trials I’ve faced and how God’s faithfulness carried me through. Join me on the 2nd Friday of each month in 2025 as we reflect on His restoration and grace.

The past decade has tested my faith and strength, especially through the heartbreak of estranged adult children. Ten Christmases and birthdays have brought deep waves of grief and longing. Yet, through it all, God’s faithfulness has carried me, whispering His promises of restoration and reminding me that no family is beyond His reach.

The Pain of Estrangement

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. ~ Psalm 147:3

To lose connection with a beloved child is a sorrow like none other. The questions, self-doubt, and helplessness can be overwhelming. I’ve asked God why this happened and what can be done to repair it. Yet, deep down my broken heart understands that God’s love for both me and my children is unshakable. I know He sees our pain and holds us tenderly in His loving arms.

God’s Promise of Restoration

I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten… You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied and praise the name of the Lord your God. ~ Joel 2:25-26

The Bible is filled with stories and promises of restoration. The verse above reassures me that no matter how much time has been lost with my children or how broken things may seem today, God has the power to redeem it all and bring about full and complete restoration of our family.

Hope and Encouragement for Parents

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. ~ Romans 15:13

If you are walking a similar path, I want to encourage you with the words of one of my favorite verses above. Even when the future feels uncertain, God’s hope is our solid anchor. He calls us to trust Him, to believe in His timing, and to pray fervently for reconciliation.

Trusting God in the Process

All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation. ~ 2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Restoration is not always immediate, and it may not come how we expect. Through this season, I’ve learned to prayerfully imagine each of my kids physically on my prayer altar, actually in God’s loving hands. This has helped get me through many tough days, weeks, months and years.

The best encouragement came in the last year when my husband and I were reconciled with our son and his young family. It has given us hope for the complete restoration of our entire family in God’s perfect timing.

Moving Forward with Hope

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6

In the promise above I’m reminded to trust in the seeds of faith that were planted long ago and to leave the outcome in God’s hands, knowing that He is faithful; He sees my heartache, and He is at work in ways I cannot yet see.

My prayer for you, dear reader, is that you too will find hope and healing as you navigate your own journey. May the God of restoration bring peace to your heart and reconciliation to your relationships in His perfect time.

After all we must remember that Love Takes Time…

Working the Steps: Step One

We admitted we were powerless over our dependencies–that our life had become unmanageable.

In October 2004, in a last ditch effort to deal with my addiction, my husband, Bill, asked me to go with him to a couples seminar. Dr. Doug Weiss from Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs was to be speaking on his book Intimacy ~ A 100 Day Guide to Lasting Relationships.

Reluctantly I agreed.

With my defenses up, I was nervous, but the small group of couples was friendly and inviting. Dr.Weiss spoke from his heart about how he had grown up with a sex addict for a mom. Because of her addiction he was shuffled back and forth from her home to foster homes. Through his mother’s bad influence Dr.Weiss became addicted to sex and pornography at a very young age.

Transparent and real, Dr.Weiss seemed to understand the pain I had. As I listened, I realized for the first time he was talking about me. I was just like his mom.

I was a sex addict.

When Bill and I returned for the Saturday morning session I was anxious to tell Dr.Weiss I wanted to go to Colorado for a 3-Day Intensive Counseling Session. I left the seminar scared but hopeful because I knew help was available.

After all the sex, drugs, alcohol, running away, therapy, medication and jail time; I was finally able to see the truth of my own addiction.

It was a miracle. It was the beginning of my recovery.

The first step is always the hardest. It can be scary and humiliating to admit powerlessness, especially for someone who likes to be in control. And all addicts think they have everything under control.

We must come to a realization that not only are we powerless over our addiction, but over ourselves as sinners. We can’t do anything without the healing power of Jesus Christ.

I don’t understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. No matter which way I turn, I can’t make myself do right. I want to, but I can’t… Oh what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. ~ Romans 7:15; 18; 24-25 NLT

You may want to pray something like this…
 Denial has kept me from seeing how powerless I am and how unmanageable my life has become. Today, I ask for help to deal with my addiction / co-dependency.