In The Twelve Steps to Victory™ column, we’re reframing the traditional 12 Steps with a focus on victory vs continually looking back at our missteps and failures. Each Step aligns with the months on the yearly calendar. This series publishes on the first Friday of each month in 2025.
We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, trusting that He would lead us to victory.~ Step Three
Step Three is where we begin to walk by faith as we learn to surrender control of our lives to God. For many of us, this can feel intimidating—but it can also be a freeing step toward an important spiritual victory. This step is about trust, humility, and letting go of the illusion that we can manage everything on our own.
Surrendering can be scary. It’s uncomfortable not knowing where we are going. We want to hold on to the illusion that we are in control even if that means drifting away from God’s purpose for our life.
Step Three is inviting us to let go and let God take the lead in our life.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. — Proverbs 3:5-6
We must remember that God will never take us where He won’t provide for us. Surrendering our control isn’t a loss–it’s actually a victory in disguise. By turning our lives and our will over to God’s care we step into the amazing life He has planned for us.
This week let’s give Him our plans, fears and desires. We can trust His guidance in all things for our life. Let’s let Him lead the way!
Be blessed by this inspiring song by Leeland: Lead The Way.
On the fourth Friday of each month in 2025 we will be studying The Search for Significance by Robert S. McGee. Let’s confront the enemy’s lies of self-doubt and find our victory in the truth of who we are according to God’s Word!
I’m excited to continue our journey through The Search for Significance by Robert S. McGee. Last month, we touched on how discovering God’s unconditional love can expose false beliefs about our value and worth.
This month, we’re digging into Chapter Two: The Origin of the Search, which uncovers why we long for significance in the first place.
Summary: Chapter Two – The Origin of the Search
This chapter explains how God created us in His own image, uniquely wiring us with the desire for significance and relationship. However, the fall of humanity distorted that original design, leaving us searching for validation in all the wrong places. By understanding our divine origins—and how sin has tainted our self-perception—we can recognize the lie that our worth comes from anything other than God. Recognizing the root of this longing is the first step in finding true significance that can only be fulfilled in Christ.
“For God made man in His own image, but sin introduced fear, shame, and a misunderstanding of our worth.” – Paraphrase from Robert S. McGee
Biblical Truths
Genesis 1:27 – “So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.”
We have inherent value because we reflect God’s image.
Psalm 139:14 – “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well.”
God’s intention in creating us was purposeful, so our lives are rooted in meaning and significance.
Key Idea
Our significance originates from being created in God’s image, yet sin distorts that reality. Restoring a right understanding of our divine design helps us break free from trying to find worth in people-pleasing or performance.
Reflection Question
How have your past experiences—whether positive or negative—shaped your view of your own significance, and in what ways does recognizing you are made in God’s image challenge those perceptions?
Practical Application
Journaling: Spend time reflecting on your childhood or significant moments where you felt “less than.” Write down how these experiences shaped the way you see yourself. Then, list truths from Scripture that affirm your identity in Christ.
Prayer for Healing: Ask God to reveal any wounds caused by seeking significance outside of Him. Invite the Holy Spirit to replace lies with His truth, bringing healing and renewed perspective.
Affirmation Practice: Choose one verse that reminds you of your worth in Christ (like Genesis 1:27 or Psalm 139:14). Memorize it and recite it daily, especially when doubts about your value arise.
My Personal Reflections
Most of my life I had no idea that I was created in God’s image. In my childhood, I was always praised by my parents for achievements in school, music or sports. They never talked to me about God and how He made me.
When I became born again in Jesus Christ at the age of 23, I began the very slow process of rewinding the lies that created those old thought patterns that I was never enough, always having to prove myself to others by actions.
Over time, I have come to see that every negative perception I hold about myself is rooted in a lie—that was planted by sin and watered by my environment. By turning back to the truth of God’s Word, I am reminded daily that He designed me with a specific purpose.
While I haven’t fully arrived at complete healing over the old thought patterns, I know in my heart that no human affirmation can compare to the security I have in His love and plan for me.
I hope this study of Chapter Two: The Origin of the Search encourages you to examine the roots of your own quest for meaning and self-worth. Embrace the truth that you bear the very image of God, and let this reality transform how you see yourself—and others—every single day.
Join me next month as we explore Chapter Three: The Performance Trap and learn how to break free from the exhausting cycle of perfectionism!
Be blessed by We Are Messengers’ beautiful song: Image of God!
